Guys, seriously if you wonder what to wear to a session with a pro domme, you do need a reality check. Look, you’re coming for a professional session, you’re going to spend the time naked or in bondage, do you really think we care about your fashion sense? You're not coming for a date, you're coming in for a professional session!
Let’s get this straight, you are a client, you pay, we dress up, we dominate you for about 60 minutes and you leave, your fashion choices don’t concern us half as much as your personal hygiene. Trust me, there is nothing worse than some guy who smells quite unpleasant and tried to camouflage it by an overdose of deodorant and cologne.
Personal hygiene also includes a bit of man-scaping, you know we really don’t like brillo pads down south, and the Brazilian rain forest is only beautiful as the lung of the planet. We do understand if you come straight from work and there is a difference between not showered for days and not being fresh as a daisy after a day of work. If you need to freshen up quickly, let us know or have some wet wipes with you.
There’s nothing wrong with asking us for a cup of coffee or a drink, so in case you plan that, just be presentable, but don’t go overboard and let us know beforehand, so we also know what to wear. But if you’re just coming for a session, don’t over think it.
In case you want to impress somebody with your snappy dress sense, get dressed up for your wife or girlfriend, honestly, she’ll appreciate it a lot more than we do, and it will do your relationship a lot of good.
Now if you're going to met a life-style domme, get dressed up, wear something nice because you're aiming for a relationship. Instead of guessing, ask her where she wants to go to and dress accordingly, or ask her for her dress preferences and what she thinks she should wear. That’s a completely different issue than seeing a professional domme.
Oh and if you're going to a fetish party, have some fetish wear, seriously, we don't want to walk around with a guy who thinks a pair of black briefs is fetish wear.
End of rant
Hi Constanze:
ReplyDeleteExcellent post! I couldn't agree more.
I've gone to sessions wearing a t-shirt and shorts. The Domme let me in and played with me not because of what pants I was wearing but because inside my pants pocket was a wallet containing her tribute. I was usually naked when she walked into the room anyway so WTF was the difference what street clothes I wore? Clothes do not make the man if they are folded up and stored neatly in a corner beneath the bondage bed.
Personal hygiene is EXTREMELY important however!!! No Domme wants to play with a stinky sub! It behooves every client/play partner to make sure he scrubs himself diligently (especially those dark, mysterious hard to reach places) before kneeling before Mistress for sensual correction. If he fails to do so he will probably not be invited back.
I can understand that Dommes don't want to attract attention and it would be only polite to not show up like a slob. It's like going to any other professional appointment, casual clothes are fine. If you're having a workout with a personal trainer, they don't care if you wear a suit or jeans, you're going to spend the hour in the gym in workout gear.
ReplyDeleteI think the whole idea about getting dressed up for a domme is a bit dangerous, because then you aren't seeing it for what it is, a professional appointment.
Ms Constanze
ReplyDeleteon the other hand i have been requested to attend wearing a suit because the domme had a fetish in ripping the suit apart with a knife,i know that's different in responding as a sub/slave to that request but its positive. maybe the dommes should request more of that to sate there own desires as that is where it should be.
Now that is actually super super hot...
ReplyDeleteMy problem with guys who get dressed up to impress the dommes might not know their boundaries and think it's a "date", and seriously, stalking is a much much bigger problem for dommes than they are comfortable to let on. I don't want to be mean, but quite a lot of guys aren't all that well adjusted.
Ms Constanze,
ReplyDeleteI love your writing.
Sadly, a lot of it makes me embarrassed to admit [or to be] a client, as we seem to have so many defects and come across so poorly.
I keep asking myself ... do I do that? Is that me?
Nonetheless, your writing certainly has the ring of truth to it!
sbH
There is nothing wrong with being a client, to be honest most clients are actually really nice, you just get to odd ones who are not in touch with reality, but I think the ones who don't session but still want to dictate how a session should be, they are the worst ones.
DeleteI've been thinking that I need to put a bit more of a positive spin on it, but unfortunately crazy and outrageous stuff is something you remember a lot more.
A really nice client, trust me, we do like you guys.
But the not so nice ones, they are the ones who often make it very difficult. Unfortunately the guys who think domming is really easy money and they should get their sessions for $50, they're possibly not going to read the blog anyway.