Monday, 27 August 2012

Dommes, escorts and everything in between

I’m so fed up with the whole “hierarchy” or imagined hierarchy in the adult industry, porn actresses believe they are above escorts, dommes believe they are better than escorts and look down on them, while escorts look down on dommes because they do all that “crazy and perverted shit”. Then of course you got the lifestyle dommes who think that all pro dommes are prostitutes and they can look down on the pro dommes… In case of the disgruntled life-style dommes, the answer is relatively simple, most pro-dommes are simply more attractive (they have to be, because guys don’t pick dommes for their unattractiveness) and usually have better fetish wear and equipment. The difference between a hobby cook and somebody who cooks for a living and can create a dish on command. So there is the problem with the life-stylers who dislike pros, well, nothing anybody can do about it, though I tend to not help out the ones who bitch that much about pros. Kinda pisses me off, because sorry gals, if you dislike them so much, you don’t want any help from an ex-pro. Now the other bit about dommes thinking they are high and mighty and so far above escorts, get a fucking grip. In case you’re in the U.S., do you really really think that when you get busted the cops care if you touched a guys penis to give him sexual gratification or pain? If you think they do, you really need a dose of reality. OK, you don’t have sex with them, they don’t penetrate you, don’t give them anything that ends with job, but you know what? Legally it doesn’t matter one bit if he has an orgasm or not, you touched his privates ZING… Now if you stuck needles into his dick, oh well, guess what, then you can also be done for all sorts of things, stuff like practising medicine without a license and all that jazz, so they come down on you like a ton of bricks. I totally get it that pro-dommes don’t do what escorts do, but that’s a personal choice, the law doesn’t see you as one bit different and it doesn’t make you better. Just think about it, if you get busted as a dominatrix, you can bet that your picture graces the tabloids, if you’re just an escort, unless you got high profile clients or you work in a high profile job otherwise, nobody gives a damn about it. In fact, people will feel a lot more sympathetic towards the “poor hooker” than towards the “dangerous perv in leather or latex”, simply because they don’t understand BDSM, but they understand sex drive and everybody likes to fuck! Instead of moaning and groaning and looking down at escorts, be damned glad that they are around and learn from them, because instead of bitching and fighting, they warn each other when it comes to stings or dangerous clients and know how to screen! And while we’re at it, isn’t the BDSM community always moaning about lack of tolerance? How about showing a bit more tolerance to others like escorts, you know, they’re also human beings, they got a story, there is a reason why they do what they do, just like you have a reason to do what you do and be a domme. And you know if another woman doesn’t have a problem with being an escort, who the hell are you to mind? Because the law treats you both as a prostitute, so get off your high horse, because there is nothing dominant about being deluded!