Monday, 17 February 2014

Reviewing Dommes...

The subject popped up again on MF, some first time posters posting fake reviews, a few Dommes chimed in and said that they had fake bad reviews and everybody wanted to stone them over them despite the fact the reviews were simply so stupid and crazy (Irene Boss was accused of having bodies in her basement, I once had to deal with a dead mouse in the garage, the stink was horrible, imagine how bodies would smell, and yeah, bodies in the basement, logic place to store them...)
Coral Korrupt had a similar story, it was just rubbish, apparently she brutalized an unbound guy who didn't want to session with her (she's 5'2) and a ton more BS, turned out another woman pretended to be a client because she saw Coral as competition (to paraphrase Coral "Some batshit crazy psycho bitch").

Of course there might be the odd fake review painting somebody in glowing colours but people will take it with a pinch of salt, however if it's a negative review, everybody jumps on the woman and it seems to become a real witch hunt. Makes me sometimes wonder if those so called submissive guys aren't really the biggest misogynists on the planet and simply hate women, especially dominant women. Some really weird knee jerk reaction.

I'm surprised how many women don't even ask questions but suck up to the guys, even if things don't sound right. I mean honestly, that reeks of desperation, you need a session so badly? Also what is bad for one woman in the business is bad for the rest, you're giving those guys the power to bully WOMEN.

Heaven knows I am by no means a female supremacist (the idea that a vagina makes somebody superior is a bit ridiculous), but for the drug riddled Lush, I would possibly qualify as a femnazi, simply because I believe in equality.

Don't get me wrong, a role play about female supremacy is super hot, I can dig that, also if we're in the dungeon, I'm the boss, you tell me your limits before, we have a talk, but once we're on the same page, it's not a democracy anymore. That's just how things work, otherwise it would hardly be domination, it would be "and how may I dominate you today, Sir?" Gag, puke, yawn....

I'm not saying that every session is perfect, most definitely not, and it's alright to say so, sometimes you have no chemistry, can't be helped, sometimes she might be unskilled or not listening, then by all means say something, but do it quick. If it happens in the first half of the session, ask for part of the tribute back, it's only fair. You're an adult, you mad the choice to see somebody who does provide an adult service, you want to get what you pay for and what was agreed. But don't go through the whole session without letting her know that it doesn't work for you and then ruin her reputation online, that's a bit shitty, and frankly, the action of a coward!
I said it before you have to communicate clearly what you want, there is really nothing more frustrating than a client who doesn't tell you what he wants, I ranted about that before:

http://exdomme.blogspot.co.uk/2012/08/what-do-you-really-want.html

Then you have to do your homework, make sure you find the right Domme, the perfect session doesn't just happen, it needs your input too

http://exdomme.blogspot.co.uk/2012/09/the-perfect-session.html


Be a freaking adult, you are responsible for yourself, your Domme isn't your mom

http://exdomme.blogspot.co.uk/2012/11/im-your-domme-not-your-mom.html

Avoid subfrenzy and wearing blinkers

http://exdomme.blogspot.co.uk/2012/11/safety-in-bdsm-sub-frenzy-and-meeting.html

And of course don't fall in love with your Domme, just don't do it!

http://exdomme.blogspot.co.uk/2012/09/ever-fallen-in-love-with-pro-domme.html

If you've done all of that and you did your part, and it's still a shit session, then write a bad review, not before...
And btw I found a very interesting article which is from an escort site but I found it was really an eye opener, and how some guys just dehumanize women. Don't be that guy, OK!

http://titsandsass.com/we-need-a-better-review-culture/