Tuesday, 2 October 2012

BDSM and Diabetics


BDSM and Health….

A couple of things, some of them shouldn’t be needed to say and a couple of you will possibly be bored to death, to be honest I don’t care. And this is NOT medical advise, talk to your doctor about that, this is some stuff that you should be aware of and consult your doctor about!

Most people know that heart problems and electricity is just NOT A GOOD IDEA, so in case you have any health concerns, do tell your domme by all means. As a rule of thumb, you shouldn’t do electricity above the waist anyway and NEVER EVER cross the chest. What most people don’t know is that with electrical play diabetes is also a risk factor.
One of the biggest problems with electrical play is your own body, something that is usually harmless can change a lot depending on your condition. Our whole body runs on electrical impulses, they are actually minimal but your nerves and everything. So the content of electrolytes in your body changes all the time, you might be a bit tired, sweaty, hungry or thirsty, or you are dehydrated but you haven’t noticed it. The resistance of your skin and body drops dramatically, so something that was harmless can change and become something dangerous.
Tens units are fine, they are constructed with human safety in mind, so in case you are interested in electric play, a good excuse (in case you don’t want to come out) is asking your doctor if it would be alright to use a tens unit for back pain. Almost everybody has problems with the back, so it’s a convenient excuse. Most of the erotic electric toys are designed with the same safety parameters, so as long as you have no heart issues and you keep it under the waist, you should be fine. Don’t rely on the dominant and don’t keep information from her/him. Your health is also your responsibility!

Please do tell a dominant about all the medication you take and any health problems you might have. I’m fairly up to date with medical stuff, but trust me it’s still quite a bit of a shock when somebody faints or gets dizzy because they have a drop in blood sugar and happen to be diabetic.
Depending on your type of diabetes, it can influence your electrolyte level and make electrical play seriously dangerous.
In case you have diabetes, make sure that the dominant knows about it and bring fruit juices with you to the session, glucose gel or tablets should be handy. The dominant can only react if he or she knows what is going on, and it’s also easier to pay close attention to a possible problem if you are aware that it does exist!
Diabetics tend to bruise easier, keep that in mind when you are having CP and for heaven’s sake, don’t do inverted suspension, you are getting extreme blood pressure in the eyes and blood vessels can bust.

As a diabetic it is quite common to have circulation problems, so that is something that has to be taken into consideration when doing bondage. Again, the dominant knowing about it can pay attention to cold limbs or will know what to do when you lose feeling in your limbs.
Diabetics often experience less sensation during impact play, that can lead to damages you want to avoid, so talk about it before so we can adjust to it and give you a session with all the pain you crave but without causing damage to you! Since you have prolonged healing time, we do have to be a lot more careful with all kinds of bruisings.
PLEASE remember that it’s your health and do not hesitate to inform your play partner about all those concerns. Chances are if you are living with the condition you know more about it than your dominant, it is your responsibility to share that information and no dominant worth his or her salt will discount it or miss the chance to learn about it. In case you run into somebody who’s not interested or doesn’t listen, don’t walk RUN!

Part of the diabetes problem is often erectile dysfunction, again, worth mentioning to your dominant, especially if you take Viagra to overcome the ED as it raises your blood pressure. Now I’m not a friend of poppers (amyl) but some people do use it, the mix of Viagra and poppers is something that is bound to land you in the ER – if you’re lucky. If you happen to be unlucky, it’s the morgue!
Additionally Viagra raises your blood pressure (duh yeah) so it’s something your domme should know. And nope, we aren’t going to laugh at you, we just need to know to make sure that we are prepared and we recognize the signs and that you walk out of the dungeon as healthy as you walked in, you want to walk out sore, but not ill or disabled!

One thing that I would like to tell every diabetic, is do not rely on the cleaning methods of a dungeon, if possible, have your own toys and bring them with you. An infection for you is much more dangerous than for somebody who doesn’t have those issues.

Blood sugar levels influence the mood of even the healthiest person, as a diabetic you are much more prone to those mood changes, so a sub drop might affect you much more than a healthy person, know about it and communicate it to the dominant, you might need more aftercare and that sugary drink can make all the difference for you!

Know about your condition and research it, don’t just rely on what the doctor tells you, research as much as possible and share your knowledge with your dominant. This is a good starting point:

This is not a comprehensive list and I do not mean this as one or even as medical advise, all this blog entries are meant to do is to raise your awareness, I’m not your minder or keeper and I’m not dishing out medical advise, I’m just trying to make you aware of your own health and your own responsibility!