Tuesday, 13 November 2012

Domination owed?

OK, a thread on good old MF inspired this, might be a bit of a rant...

Let me give you the gist of it:

Guy wants domination, several hours of it, pro dommes are too expensive for him, he doesn't like life-style dommes as they make him jump through too many hoops. In short he wants instant domination, the way he likes it (not in a dungeon setting but their homes - anybody concerned about safety and letting a stranger into your house?) but that's it. He wants to show up and get his needs met, but claims it's all about the woman... Now dommes should give him the sessions for free or other guys should sponsor him...

Didn't meet with a lot of approval, apart from the true loose cannon on the board who's well known for his hatred of dommes (and to go on to a board that deals with professional domination, doofus really has some issues, maybe he's a masochist and gets his kicks that way?), oddly enough the original poster wasn't distracted from this, he kept continuing with his passive aggressive stuff, and the woman are mean bitches who attack him, when he just wants to live in a world where you don't need any money...

I can sympathize with the idea of an Utopia where no currency is needed, but I can't sympathize with the idea of being a free loader and that anybody has to prove sincerity by giving you stuff for free. If you shun all commercialism, don't expect play for pay for free, simple as that.

Can you imagine going into a restaurant and telling the chef that if he's truly passionate about food, he'll deliver a 5 star menue for free? Your favorite musician has to show up at your party and perform for free, your favorite painter will have to hand over his or her artworks for free, your accountant has to do your taxes for free - how else would you know that he's passionate about crunching numbers...

I really do not have a problem with people who want to get away from commercialism, in fact I find it admirable and we're trying to do something like that on a small scale, we're usually donating the money we would have spent for Xmas pressies to a charity and help out at a local shelter. Much more rewarding than sitting at home, overeaten and feeling a bit sick and it takes out the stress of finding presents...

What I do have a problem with is with people who are not willing to give (i.e. somebody who says and that is a direct quote Now, there are lifestyle dommes (as opposed to pro-dommes) who are less interested in money and more into domination. But they usually make subs jump through multiple hoops for extended periods of time before sessioning real time (such as mandatory cam sessions, long waiting periods, etc.) I am just plain out of sympathy for somebody who's a freeloader with an entitlement complex.
NO woman, and especially not dominant women are fetish delivery systems, obliged to dominate anybody who asks for it, or demands it. If you can't be bothered to show that you are sincere, you want it on your terms and when you want it (not when the woman feels ready or is in the mood), then pay for it.

The guy doesn't work, claims his wife knows about it and doesn't mind, so I suggested he might talk to her, she might actually love him pampering her and doing the household chores, but he claims she is too sweet for that, and he likes that she is a sweet and good natured girl, the one he fell in love with...

So essentially, the sweet girl shouldn't be sullied with dominance, those of us who are dominant are obviously some lower form of life who can be exploited by him at will. And he wonders why he's not getting anywhere?

Sorry, but I'm sticking with my plan to give money to the victims of Sandy, those people need food and shelter, I can't really see his need for a domination session that lasts for a few hours being quite as great as the need of the Sandy victims. Yeah, I know, I'm going to hell for being such an unfeeling and cold bitch, but you know what, I guess that is one good way to avoid the freeloader, aka professional victim....

That song is actually far too cool to dedicate it to him, but you get the gist...