More gender bending tips...

A bit more cross dressing help here…

I already told you that you need some clothes and until you have the perfect idea what your size is, keep it stretchy, looking like a sausage ready to burst isn’t a good look, doesn’t matter if you’re a biological woman or if you want to look like one, or if you just like wearing women’s clothes. In case you have an athletic build (lucky you) bulging biceps just don’t work when you’re trying to be feminine, same with the beer gut or hairy legs, I get to that later.

Shoes, not too high as you want to walk in them, in the pervious blog entry I talked about how to find shoes, the right size and heel height, so check that out, same goes for the wigs most of you will need. Again, eBay and other online stores are your friend if you are afraid to go shopping…

A few hints how to get more out of your session or how to enjoy a bit of cross dressing on your own… 

If you just like the transformation, I would recommend looking online for an open minded make-up artist, maybe somebody who is just starting out. Everybody needs a bit of extra in this economy and it’s a lot cheaper to see the make-up artist than to see a domme, apart from that, you can learn a lot from a make-up artist and that might cut down the time the domme takes until you’re ready, so you’re not paying for an hour and get maybe 30 minutes of play time out of it because getting you ready will take that long, you can get ready on your own and get more play time.

One thing that is super important is have a close shave, as close as you can get, stubbles under makeup don’t look great. 

If possible, have a good shave elsewhere too, as I said before, the Brazilian rain forest is only beautiful as the lung of the planet, not in your underpants… As for legs, well, hairy legs aren’t very feminine, now if you can’t shave your legs for some reason, try stockings or a pantyhose that is dark and thick (the higher the DEN – denier – number, the more opaque it is), go for at least 60 or 80 DEN, or support stockings. Additionally, thick stockings will also not rip quite as easily, so you’ll have them longer. When it comes to size, again be generous, models usually take their tights a size larger than they need because they don’t rip all that easy. If you’re a big guy, look online for female plus sizes.

You want a pair of breasts? You possibly think that I am joking, but get a bra and some balloons. The balloons you fill up with water and put them in the bra, this will also give you a good idea how female breasts feel and how much we girls carry on our chests… Of course you can get the plastic inlays and all that, but they tend to be much more expensive and you can’t experiment much with the size. Rule of thumb is, the bigger and broader you are, the more you can get away with big boobs, if you're slight of build and you try the balloons with gallons of water, you end up looking like that poor Lolo Ferrari. Though you can get bras relatively inexpensive on eBay, it can be a lot of fun to experiment with different breast sizes.

A little hint how to have breasts that are both the same size, don't rely on eye measurements, get a jug (no pun intended) with approximate measures and pour in the same amount in each balloon, or else you end up looking like a partially deflated inflatable doll - again, not a good look.

For a CD or TV to find a fitting bra, the underbust is the most important thing, that’s the number, so you basically measure where the band of the bra would go, check with the list which size you need and then check which cup size you want. The cup size is the letter. B and C are “regular” female bust sizes, if you want to  have big boobs, go D or DD, but your back won’t thank you ;)

Again, you can get a lot of bras online at sites like eBay and such, if you are worried about going into shops and getting measured.

The following 2 links will tell you how to find your ideal underbust size, which is the most important thing in a bra, and lucky guys, you can pick your own cup size and don’t have to worry about surgery…

http://www.silkcocoon.co.uk/index.cfm?page=size.cfm#stp1

http://www.dollhousebettie.com/index.php?option=com_myblog&Itemid=0&lang=en&show=198

Gender bending, CDs, TVs and a bit of help....

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Thought I make this a bit fun for everybody and just throw in the odd useful advise...

CDs and TVs (cross dressers and transvestites) often need a bit of help, a lot of people claim that they’re not really BDSM and all of that, to be honest, I never cared much about labels and what is “twue and weal” BDSM, if they find themselves at home under the umbrella of BDSM, it’s alright for me. In case somebody minds them a lot, just don’t read and look away, they aren’t going to push themselves at you, OK!

So a couple of my friends do enjoy a bit of gender bending, which is actually a lot of fun (yeah, doesn’t really work for me, I could only camouflage as a 3 headed alien) and it’s pretty hard for them to find somebody who’s into it, a lot of them rely on pro-dommes, but most pro-dommes don’t really have the kind of wardrobe to fit each and every size of guy and make him look feminine. It might be an idea to get your own clothes.

Yes, I hear you, it’s difficult and you’re embarrassed going into a shop, I get that, but you know, there’s a lot of stuff you can do, there’s the internet, you can go to thrift stores and charity shops and claim you need to find something for a fancy dress party.

There are a ton of websites out there who will do the size conversion for you, this one is for the US:

http://www.lauras-playground.com/size_chart.htm

So you find out the right size for you and you go online, but you should really make sure that the material is stretchy, at least until you get an idea of your size and what will suit you and fit you. Often there is quite a bit of difference between different brands and how they cut the clothes, so stretchy with elastic waists is really not the worst idea for your “starter kit”.

Don’t really go overboard, have a look at yourself and be realistic, in short if you’re built like the proverbial brick shit house, maybe you want to look like a high glam pin-up, but it’s not going to work. Go with something that works for you and that’s realistic, unless of course you want to end up looking like you escaped straight out of a carry on comedy.

One thing you’ll need is a good wig (again, if you’re afraid to go into shops, ebay or other online shops, they don’t give a damn if you’re a man or a woman) you might want to be the blonde or brunette bombshell with hair all down your back, but don’t fall into that trap, you want to look feminine and not like a grotesque parody of a female. Most of the super long wigs just don’t look right, unless you’re going for something super expensive. Shoulder long hair will look a lot better and more realistic, it’s a lot easier to look after, won’t look quite as ratty…

The same for shoes, don’t go sky high, go for a medium height shoe and learn to walk in them, there is nothing worse than somebody who can’t walk in high heels, you do look a lot better in a smaller heel when you don’t fall over, because breaking an arm or a nose won’t exactly make you look very feminine.

As for the sizes, there is a difference in size, a female size 9 would be a male 7 to 7 ½  and if you’re going for a heel, then you possibly will need to take that into consideration as well. So when shopping online and you’re in doubt, rather go for the half a size bigger than you thought originally, if needed put in an inlay, your feet will thank you, and stay away from peep toes, unless you have very dainty, feminine toes and very well pedicured feet. Peep toes are also often a lot more uncomfy and cut into your toes.

There are a lot of other things, I think I might do a little series of blog entries, because for a lot of guys the whole “getting ready” and the transformation is just as exiting as finally being feminized. At 200 to 300 per hour, that can be seriously expensive, so having your own gear and knowing about getting ready can get you a lot more play time, than if you need the domme around to get you ready, dress you up and all that!

I have to bug a friend of mine who’s a make-up artist if she’d write me a little bit about that, to give you a bunch of brands that are good and some hints how to remove all your make-up completely.

So I guess part 2 and 3 will be coming soon…

I needed to add something because by chance I found some good wig shops in the UK, maybe too far away for you and all that, but the styles should give you ideas...

http://www.repartee.tv/sales.php 

http://www.celebwigs.com/human-hair-lace-wigs/

The human hair wigs are actually fantastic quality.... I'm thinking of getting one myself in case I want to change my style a bit...