Stupid things people do...

So I read an entry on MF today, not sure if I should believe it, it's just a bit "much" and to be honest it doesn't sound very credible...

I best do a copy and paste, since I am not sure the guy who posted the review is "legit", I change the name of the domme in question... Why I am not so sure it's a real review, I'll tell you later....

This is the very first time that I've had to give a Mistress a bad review. Now over the years, since I've been exploring my inner submission, and having sessions with Pro Domme's, for the most part, I've had pleasant experiences, some more so that others which just depended on the Mistress and her particular style when it comes to a session, and I've sessioned with several different Mistresses, but I'd have to say, that may last session with an Altanta Georgia area Mistress, XXX was absolutely awful, and here's the reasons why.

What made me initially chose her, was her photos, which must have been taken when she was about 20-30 lighter; thefefore, the photos of how she actually presently looks where somewhat deceiving. Not to sound mean, but when she opened her mouth, I see these huge buttery teeth, she has awful oral hygiene which is something that you can not truly enjoy if you're one of those submissives that enjoy being spit on by your Mistress.

So although I'm mislead from the photos, and find her teeth disgusting, since I drove almost 2 hrs to make it to my session, and being in need of a submission fix, I didn't turn around and leave, I stayed, paid my tribute fee, we began the session, and was truly wanting to make the best of it, and have a good session. Now I go into the mindset of a submissive, which means that I want to do everything I'm told and make my Mistress happy. Well she asked me if I would mind having our session video taped, at first I was very reluctant, because this is my private life here we're talking about. I told her that I would be worried about my face and tattoo's being seen, and she assured me that she would edit those out.
Not long after our session, I had a change of heart, and respectfully requested that she not use the videos at all, and after my request, a few days later, I look and this fat ass buck toothed buttery teeth bitch has posted these videos on clips 4 sale, unedited, totally disragarding or respecting my wishes! Not being concerned at all how this could effect my life! Mistress or not, I don't like to be lied to or dealt with underhandedly by anyone! So be forewarned submissives, XXXX is not the Mistress to go see! There are plenty other Mistresses that are a lot more straight up in their dealings than her, trust me! I'm not usually a mean hearted person, or say mean things just to offend or hurt someone, but she, Mistress Yuck Mouth aka XXXX has really pissed me off royally, and my complaint is valid! She is a liar, and totally unprofessional! Now is what I'm saying defamation of her character, uhmmm no I don't think so, because it's the truth, no matter how harshly stated! Save your $ and your time, do not go see her, trust me friends! 

I told him that if he didn't sign a release form, he should inform Clips4Sale and tell them and they'd yank the video - they have to and they won't run the risk of a law suit. People who dealt with them said they are superb and run a "clean" business.

Why I think he isn't legit? Simple, because all his other reviews were about a different Mistress in the area, he basically was a walking advertisement for her, said Mistress seems to be a direct competition of the Mistress where he claimed was so bad.

Additionally, he claims that she is much bigger than her pics, seeing her videos, she actually seems slimmer than her her pics, and in her videos her teeth are just fine, perfect, white, nothing to see of buck teeth.

Then a guy saying he didn't like the way she looked, that she had horrible teeth but still staying and paying - somehow doesn't sound right, then a client - somebody who PAYS - agreeing to have the session taped without being forewarned about it? Sorry, nope, again, doesn't sound right...

And then you look at her videos, she seems to have 2 regular video slaves in her C4S video store, both of them go months and months back - and he claims that she sells the video on his C4S store? Again, not right. Also if you would worry about being recognized, would you put it out where to find the videos with potential blackmail material? Something is odd about it...

Anybody with half a brain would demand that the videos are taken down or legal action would happen, hell, just a little anonymous call telling the authorities that she doesn't have all the proper release papers and she'd be in legal trouble until the next century...

Something just doesn't smell right here...

But anyway, guys, you got a brain use it to THINK...



Guys, don't do videos without a mask, just don't do it! THINK!

Btw seems the guy was really full of shit and got busted, as for her looks, she put up a video and the domme in question is quite gorgeous: free video 

Why are there....

So I opened up my FL again and guess what, yeah, there is a long rambling letter with a laundry list of what I can do to a guy for "my pleasure" and then he complains about pro dommes and life-style dommes, the former ones are all greedy whores (according to him) and the latter are mostly fat, old and unattractive (again according to him) and since he considers me not too fat, too old (duh, thought I set my profile to 86 to not attract them) or too unattractive (wonder how he can tell since all he sees is a leather corset) he decided to write me and offer himself. OH LUCKY ME...

I know it's not easy to find a life-style domme, possibly not even for casual play, but it's also not easy to find a girlfriend or a kinky girlfriend, sitting at your computer and typing with one hand won't make it easier.

First impressions count, if you come across like a whiny little cry-baby, feeling sorry for yourself and telling me how hard it is, I have an impression of you, that impression isn't flattering.

If you think you flatter me by talking nasty about other women - think again, you come over as a classless, mean spirited little creep.

So you talk about serving me, but then you have this long list of what you want me to do to you, hey, if I go for a massage, I usually pay because the massage therapist is providing a service, so if you want your ass caned, it's nothing else, spare me the "for my pleasure".

Oh yeah, and don't bemoan the fact that there are so many big women in BDSM, guess what, a lot of big women around, if you don't like them look the other way. Nobody says you have to find them attractive but if you bitch about them being there, then let me bitch about needy little creeps...

Actually, it's a bunch of wasted keystrokes, said all before

http://exdomme.blogspot.co.uk/2012/07/public-service-announcement.html

I'm your Domme, not your mom

A friend of mine brought that up today in a conversation, I'm jealous, that is such a great line and so true!

Guys, no ifs and no buts, unless you are into age play a good way to turn of female dominants is to expect them to coddle you, if we wanted to have children, we would have them, some of us might even have them, so really, we don't need a guy to behave like he can't tie his shoes himself and needs to be micromanaged 24/7.

If it's in a session and you both get off on it, wonderful, but I would really really freak out if somebody would expect me to micromanage him all the time, it's kinda nice having somebody with a brain, somebody you can also have a conversation with and not somebody who wants you to know when he's allowed to use the toilet (unless it's their kink - it certainly isn't mine, bowel functions are more of a turn off, we all have them but some bodily functions are in the realm of privacy, please don't over share).

Of course I am not speaking for all dommes and some might be into micromanagement, it's just not a hell lot of us are, really. Look at it practically, micromanaging you causes us a lot of work, we have to show you how something is done, we have to check that you are doing it right, we have to control you all the time, you know what? I rather do it myself, far less trouble and I don't have to bother with somebody getting underfoot.

Think about it this way, a submissive who's smart and attentive, that is sexy, that is a turn on, yup, does something for me, somebody who's dumb or dumbs down, not so much. If you'd be looking for a potential play partner or life partner, what would you be looking for? Somebody who is smart and clever, who's an asset, somebody you can be proud of, or a liability?

Say if you are a service sub, what service are you doing me if I have to watch you all the time? So I let you into my place (bit of a risk I took) and you're there and you want to be of service, I tell you to wash the dishes while I do something else and you interrupt me every 5 minutes asking me which dish you should wash first, within 30 minutes I want to throttle you and kick your ass out, and I am not talking breath play and abandonment fantasies, I'm telling you, there is nothing kinky about me being really really pissed off!

The perfect session

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How to…

Well how to have the perfect session is one of the questions that gets asked frequently, and to be honest, I can’t give you any guarantees, nobody can. It does help if you communicate clearly what you are looking for, do your research and keep a clear head, and be aware that there is a difference between fantasy and reality. In your fantasy something might be really really exciting, in reality the pain or whatever activity was so exciting in your fantasy, simply might not turn you on

I know it can be taunting and actually quite embarrassing to phrase what you want, your doubts and your insecurities, but trust me, most dommes have heard it all. What’s better, being embarrassed for 5 minutes or spending 2 or 300 bucks for a session that didn’t quite turn out as you planned because you didn’t tell her?

Sessions really depend so much on chemistry, I always find it so funny if people ask me what my all time favourite activity is, I honestly can’t tell you, because it depends so much on the person I play with. Something that has me more or less salivating with somebody, it can leave me completely cold with somebody else.

So when it comes to booking sessions, I would seriously recommend to look for somebody who has similar interests, but even more than that, somebody you have a vibe with.  Looks have a lot to do with it, but don’t get hung up on looks, model looks don’t automatically mean a great session, as long as you are attracted to the domme, that’s really all it takes.

Over the years, I have seen some really stunning women, of course guys will flock to them first, but more than once the same guys came out of a session with a long face. All too often they just relied on their looks. That’s not to say that every gorgeous domme doesn’t know what she is doing, some are amazing, but you have to talk to them, find out about them and if they’d be right for you. Does she listen to what you are looking for and actually talk to you, asks questions and makes sure she understands it?

Seeing a domme is a bit like going to a restaurant, if you don’t like rice, best avoid Asian restaurants, if you don’t like it spicy, Mexican is possibly out…  You do your research and you are trying to find a dish that you will like. It’s really not so different.

Or imagine buying a suit or shoes, one pair might look great but they just don’t fit right…

Talk to a few dommes, get a feel for them, you don’t have to waste their time but you can have interactions with them. Trust your gut feeling, but remember, it’s a session, it’s really not a life-partner. And also bear in mind that your fantasies are almost always a lot better, fantasies don’t hurt, everything happens just like you want it to happen. Unless you find a domme who’s also a mind reader, it’s not very likely that it will happen in session just as perfect as in your fantasy. Try and be open minded and get her input, she might have some ideas herself… In case she doesn’t, well, do you want to spend money on somebody who doesn’t even want to give you input?

The sad reality is there really is no guarantee for a stellar session, but you can do your part to minimize the risk a bit. Also if you are not too hung up on your fantasy and open minded about letting the domme work within a range, you might do a lot better if you’re open minded and you don’t want your fantasy replicated in real life, that’s almost always a recipe for disaster. Even if you have experience and you’re looking for another domme, take each woman as a new experience and not a replacement for the previous domme, you get much more out of it this way!

Basically getting a good session is a bit of a gamble, most of the sessions where guys claimed they were stellar (apart from the usual BS when they are still flying high on endorphins and you have to take it with a grain of salt anyway), looking back, from just the activities they weren’t all that stellar or outrageous, we just happened to have fairly good chemistry, which often really makes all the difference.