Talking to a lot of people, I realized that often subs just don't really have a clue about what's acceptable or how it "should be", some of them run into dominants who also don't really have a clue.
Now first of all, just don't rely on the dominant always being in charge, in a scene - unless you get really scared - yes, but before the scene starts, make clear what your limits are. In short don't let your sex drive rule your thinking.
BDSM is a game where everybody participates, that means as a submissive or slave, you also have responsibility, you are responsible for yourself and to a certain degree for your own safety.
I have little time and patience for subs (male or female) who think with the lower regions instead of their brain. Yeah, it's powerful, it's sexy, it can go to your head, absolutely, I wouldn't be into it if it wouldn't turn me on, but again, it is NOT a good enough excuse to stop thinking!
People go on a lot about SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual), to be honest, for me SSC just doesn't cut it, nothing we do is 100% safe, if it is sane - well, debatable, for some people being beaten or beating somebody else is everything but sane, consensual - yes, that is non-negotiable!
In short, I much prefer RACK and it seems to be much more descriptive (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) and accurate, what we do has risks, it's our business (and by that I mean the submissive and the dominant) to be aware of those risks and consensually engage in those kinks. So subbies, there really is no excuse for you to not ask questions and educate yourself (just as much as the dominant should) because that falls under the umbrella of consensual for me.
You do know that very often the bottom (or sub in that case) breaches the consensuality rule? Surprised? You shouldn't be, if the dominant doesn't have the full knowledge and you haven't fully disclosed potential or actual medical problems, how can the dom/me truly and consensually take a risk, especially one he or she isn't aware of.
I know there is the victim mentality and people like to scream abuse, I don't deny that there is a lot of abuse in BDSM (just like there is in vanilla relationships), but remember, you can walk away at any time, you can say STOP at any time, and if you feel you are in danger or the top isn't in control or doesn't know what he or she is doing, that is EXACTLY what you should do. Some of you might be afraid to lose their dominant, tell you what, wouldn't you rather lose a dominant than a limb or end up with some serious injuries? When it comes down to it, your life and health should be a lot more important than a few moments of submissive bliss.
Personally, I'm afraid of sub frenzy, so afraid that I tend to not do any casual play anymore. So far it hasn't happen to me but I also don't want it to happen to me. Let me give you an example, you're at a club and there is also a play area, naturally there will be more guys than women, the guys see kinky things, they see women in sexy BDSM outfits, THEY WANT A PIECE OF ACTION! All of a sudden it seems all their fantasies have come true, they'll approach anybody to get some BDSM action. It happens to women too, to be honest the worst ones to develop sub frenzy are women between 30 and 50 who discover BDSM for the first time, common sense often goes out of the window.
So, you're in a club and you see subs begging tops to play with them, pretty often they don't really know what they want, they want almost any BDSM action, they won't talk about phobias and problems, they don't mention limits... Yes of course the top or dominant should ask, but again, also the responsibility of the sub to mention it, remember, it's a game for adults, so be a freaking adult! At one club there was a massive scandal and uproar, one guy freaked out completely, he forgot to mention that he's got claustrophobia and tends to freak out when being tied up. Hey, that's really smart isn't it? You know somebody who'd ask me to whip them and lets me tie him up and then screams bloody murder and abuse - I would expect that the person tells me about those problems, I am not a mind reader and it's not the most common problem, also not one you should expect. The nature of the beast is simply, that when it comes to public play the dungeon monitors have to react and they see somebody in panic, they think the top is responsible. In general everybody takes the side of the "poor subbie".
After seeing situations like that (not too often but to be honest, just the rare occasion is enough), I came to the conclusion that unless I do know you, and I know you're a responsible adult, I won't run the risk to be branded the villain or abuser, because we consensually entered a scene and you didn't know your limits, or decided to not tell me your limits, or you just "forgot" to tell me.
Also a sub, don't just play with anybody, you know it's your skin that's on the line, make sure the person knows what he/she is doing, watch them for a while, talk to them. You might be gagging for a scene, but seriously, you do want to get an impression of the person who's going to top you. A short talk can't really rule out all doubts and make something safe, but it can make it safer, if they appear to have had drinks and are under the influence of booze or anything else - give it a miss. Ask them how long they have been playing and ask a few things about their equipment. Of course you don't want to appear like an officer who's cross-examining them, but you can have a respectful discussion about their toys, like admire the whip and ask how long they had it, act a bit stupid and ask if it's difficult to care for whips, pretend to be ignorant and say "Leather is great, you just have to clean it with a wet cloth!" In case they agree with you enthusiastically, you don't play with that person, because he or she knows fuck all about hygiene standards, and do you really want to be whipped (where there is ALWAYS the danger of skin being broken) with a whip somebody else just has been whipped?
Play with somebody who has several crops, riding crops are relatively cheap (equestrian stores - end of lines, you get a lot of crop for your buck, about 3 times as many as you get in a BDSM supply store, if you don't have an equestrian store nearby, go online) easy to transport, easy to clean (if the disinfectant ruins them, it's a few bucks) they can't do as much damage as a whip.
A really good and smart thing would be to bring your own crop(s), in the UK you can get a good riding crop for as little as £3 (that's about $5 - even cheaper if you buy in bulk) if you buy end of lines. It's a good way to start a conversation with a dominant you like, especially if you give her or him a present of a crop (most dominants are toy whores anyway) and it's a lot cheaper than buying them a drink, which is possibly what most of the other subs are trying to do.
You do stand out a bit from the crowd, you make a good first impression, if she decides to play with you, you brought your own equipment (which didn't cost a lot) and you don't have to worry how many other people were beaten with that crop without it being properly cleaned...
Actually, there is a lot more to be said about safety and meeting dominants, so be prepared for occasional updates on the subject...
Friday, 30 November 2012
Thursday, 29 November 2012
Women in control
This is actually more of a fun post, I stumbled over some stuff on YouTube and I thought you guys might really enjoy to see some women that are in control...
Shirley Manson, she's super cool...
Say what you want, she has guts!
Wednesday, 28 November 2012
BDSM - In or out the closet?
It's something that always comes up if people who participate in BDSM meet up or talk, people are asking if you're "out" and the ones who are tend to look a bit down on the ones that are not.
I don't know what's wrong or right, I think it's something each and every person has to decide for him or herself, in general, the world is not quite as tolerant as we want it to be, so I'd recommend to think about it carefully if you want to be out and proud.
While it is possibly quite liberating to be out and not having to worry about some scumbag outing and possibly blackmailing you, it can also backfire as the recent NYC scandal showed.
Personally I would support each and everybody to be out or not out, as long as you thought about it and you're happy with your choice, it's yours and yours alone, nobody has the right to tell you to be out, and after all BDSM is something rather private, I never saw the need to share my private sexual preferences with the world.
It's simply nobody elses business, and why would you share even a vanilla sex life with random people? I mean you don't want to hear how your neighbours do it (trust me, I don't want to know about my neighbours' sex life, in fact I'd actually appreciate it if they'd wear MORE clothes, at least clothes that cover most of their bodies - one word: cottage cheese thighs) if you're having a family, think about yourself and your parents. You really don't want to know about your parent's sex life, so if you have kids, don't overshare.
To be honest, I never really bring it up even with people I know socially or through work, some of my friends do have a BDSM background and we met through parties or sessions, so of course it's not a secret with us, but to people who don't really know, I don't think I need to tell them.
In case you're working in an industry that is somewhat creative, people gossip enough, yes you might have a bit more leeway and you're allowed to be a bit more "crazy" but gossip is still ripe, so why give them more to talk about?
It's not like I make a massive big secret out of it, at home there are plenty of crops and whips, I got a lot of corsets, I wear leather quite often, I have a thing for boots (I have to take a picture of my new boots... they are just AMAZING, simple and stylish but they also look good with BDSM clothes - have I mentioned I'm a fashion victim and a shoe whore) and I usually pimp up my business wear with slightly extravagant shoes, if people ask, I usually just look at them and ask them why they ask, or why they want to know and depending on their reply and my gut feeling I give my answer. I won't deny it, but I tend to side track, I do ride so that's an easy answer for the crops and whips, the shoes are fashion and I like the Goth look...
Seriously, there is no right or wrong, but remember that once you're out, you can't go back into the closet and it might come and bite you in the ass. I'm not trying to make you paranoid but think what you have to gain from being all out? If you don't need to apply for jobs and all that because you're independently wealthy, cool, great. Just most of us don't have that luxury and you never know how a boss or colleagues will react. Of course if you're out, nobody can ever blackmail you, but in all honesty, somebody who only does it in the missionary position is possibly not "out" about it, certain things are private.
Don't have pictures about yourself floating around, facial recognition software is becoming more and more sophisticated, have an alternative email address that is NOT in your real name, keep your BDSM correspondence and the rest separate. Use some common sense, you don't have to be paranoid and look over your shoulder all the time, but keep some things private.
I know with the information age, Facebook and all that it's quite tempting to share more than is possibly wise, about every day you read about somebody being fired because they tweeted something they shouldn't have tweeted, or put stuff on Facebook they thought only their friends would see - and whoops, somebody takes a screen shot and sends it to the boss anonymously...
Again, if you are out or not, it's up to you, but just ask yourself what you have to gain and what you have to lose... Especially if you just found BDSM and you are in a mad feeding frenzy, it can be easy to be carried away and do something you might regret later. Just use some common sense, that's all I ask, you wouldn't tell everybody that you like having sex doggie style - so why tell everybody that you're into getting whipped or spanked....
I don't know what's wrong or right, I think it's something each and every person has to decide for him or herself, in general, the world is not quite as tolerant as we want it to be, so I'd recommend to think about it carefully if you want to be out and proud.
While it is possibly quite liberating to be out and not having to worry about some scumbag outing and possibly blackmailing you, it can also backfire as the recent NYC scandal showed.
Personally I would support each and everybody to be out or not out, as long as you thought about it and you're happy with your choice, it's yours and yours alone, nobody has the right to tell you to be out, and after all BDSM is something rather private, I never saw the need to share my private sexual preferences with the world.
It's simply nobody elses business, and why would you share even a vanilla sex life with random people? I mean you don't want to hear how your neighbours do it (trust me, I don't want to know about my neighbours' sex life, in fact I'd actually appreciate it if they'd wear MORE clothes, at least clothes that cover most of their bodies - one word: cottage cheese thighs) if you're having a family, think about yourself and your parents. You really don't want to know about your parent's sex life, so if you have kids, don't overshare.
To be honest, I never really bring it up even with people I know socially or through work, some of my friends do have a BDSM background and we met through parties or sessions, so of course it's not a secret with us, but to people who don't really know, I don't think I need to tell them.
In case you're working in an industry that is somewhat creative, people gossip enough, yes you might have a bit more leeway and you're allowed to be a bit more "crazy" but gossip is still ripe, so why give them more to talk about?
It's not like I make a massive big secret out of it, at home there are plenty of crops and whips, I got a lot of corsets, I wear leather quite often, I have a thing for boots (I have to take a picture of my new boots... they are just AMAZING, simple and stylish but they also look good with BDSM clothes - have I mentioned I'm a fashion victim and a shoe whore) and I usually pimp up my business wear with slightly extravagant shoes, if people ask, I usually just look at them and ask them why they ask, or why they want to know and depending on their reply and my gut feeling I give my answer. I won't deny it, but I tend to side track, I do ride so that's an easy answer for the crops and whips, the shoes are fashion and I like the Goth look...
Seriously, there is no right or wrong, but remember that once you're out, you can't go back into the closet and it might come and bite you in the ass. I'm not trying to make you paranoid but think what you have to gain from being all out? If you don't need to apply for jobs and all that because you're independently wealthy, cool, great. Just most of us don't have that luxury and you never know how a boss or colleagues will react. Of course if you're out, nobody can ever blackmail you, but in all honesty, somebody who only does it in the missionary position is possibly not "out" about it, certain things are private.
Don't have pictures about yourself floating around, facial recognition software is becoming more and more sophisticated, have an alternative email address that is NOT in your real name, keep your BDSM correspondence and the rest separate. Use some common sense, you don't have to be paranoid and look over your shoulder all the time, but keep some things private.
I know with the information age, Facebook and all that it's quite tempting to share more than is possibly wise, about every day you read about somebody being fired because they tweeted something they shouldn't have tweeted, or put stuff on Facebook they thought only their friends would see - and whoops, somebody takes a screen shot and sends it to the boss anonymously...
Again, if you are out or not, it's up to you, but just ask yourself what you have to gain and what you have to lose... Especially if you just found BDSM and you are in a mad feeding frenzy, it can be easy to be carried away and do something you might regret later. Just use some common sense, that's all I ask, you wouldn't tell everybody that you like having sex doggie style - so why tell everybody that you're into getting whipped or spanked....
Tuesday, 27 November 2012
TPE - Take over my life...
Honestly, I think everybody had that fantasy at least once or twice, on both sides of the whip, but it unless you're independently wealthy and live and breathe BDSM all day long, it's possibly the most impractical idea ever. Something for day-dreamers or people who aren't too well adjusted when it comes to reality.
It makes for a great fantasy and it makes for a really cool role play, maybe even for a great BDSM vacation or weekend, but day in day out, I just can't see it...
Imagine you're a normal couple, chances are that you're both working, at work - unless you are self-employed - you have a boss who is in control and makes the rules, plus at work you want to concentrate on work and not your private kink. Trust me, I'm very kink friendly but if I would have to work with somebody who's kink would interfere with the work, I'd be everything else but pleased and point out that they should get their sexual thrills at home, the time they're paid to work, they owe their full time and effort to the person who pays.
For it to be real and total power exchange, one person has absolute control, it can be hot for a short time, but if you want it as 24/7 you would have to micromanage and that's just a hell lot of work.
Of course you can agree to your own version of TPE, for example where the sub has a certain amount of freedom and the dominant trusts him or her to make the right decisions, however real life has a way of interfering in that.
In case the submissive is married or in a relationship with somebody else, TPE can't work, it's conflicting commitments and it's seriously unfair to the spouse (unless the spouse is happy with it too), who's relationship would have some serious interference by the dominant.
When it comes down to it, we all have lives outside of D/s and I really wouldn't want to deal with anybody who doesn't have another life and everything is just BDSM, they don't tend to be the most well adjusted people, to be honest, they'd drive me crazy. Apart from the fact that somebody who would agree to TPE without limits is possibly somebody who doesn't value their safety and life at all, and the TOTAL in TPE basically means that there can't be limits or else it wouldn't be a total power exchange.
For me TPE is just another one of those buzz words, a fantasy far too many people take far too seriously, trust me BDSM and D/s can be very enjoyable with only a limited amount of power exchange and without dramatic labels, all it requires is to be an adult and responsible and not let your fantasy run away with you.
Like slavery, power exchange in BDSM is completely voluntary, so we are playing with a fantasy concept anyway, something no lawyer could push through, it's two or more adults agreeing to something because it's what they want and crave. To give up power and free will in certain circumstances with a trusted partner is absolutely cool, but I'm getting fed up with people using TPE as an excuse for bad choices or letting your libido overrule your common sense. Even if you have agreed to TPE, you haven't agreed to be a mindless robot, you're still responsible. BDSM is a game for adults, if you can't act like an adult, sorry, you really shouldn't be part of it! It goes back to "I'm your domme and not your mom!"
It makes for a great fantasy and it makes for a really cool role play, maybe even for a great BDSM vacation or weekend, but day in day out, I just can't see it...
Imagine you're a normal couple, chances are that you're both working, at work - unless you are self-employed - you have a boss who is in control and makes the rules, plus at work you want to concentrate on work and not your private kink. Trust me, I'm very kink friendly but if I would have to work with somebody who's kink would interfere with the work, I'd be everything else but pleased and point out that they should get their sexual thrills at home, the time they're paid to work, they owe their full time and effort to the person who pays.
For it to be real and total power exchange, one person has absolute control, it can be hot for a short time, but if you want it as 24/7 you would have to micromanage and that's just a hell lot of work.
Of course you can agree to your own version of TPE, for example where the sub has a certain amount of freedom and the dominant trusts him or her to make the right decisions, however real life has a way of interfering in that.
In case the submissive is married or in a relationship with somebody else, TPE can't work, it's conflicting commitments and it's seriously unfair to the spouse (unless the spouse is happy with it too), who's relationship would have some serious interference by the dominant.
When it comes down to it, we all have lives outside of D/s and I really wouldn't want to deal with anybody who doesn't have another life and everything is just BDSM, they don't tend to be the most well adjusted people, to be honest, they'd drive me crazy. Apart from the fact that somebody who would agree to TPE without limits is possibly somebody who doesn't value their safety and life at all, and the TOTAL in TPE basically means that there can't be limits or else it wouldn't be a total power exchange.
For me TPE is just another one of those buzz words, a fantasy far too many people take far too seriously, trust me BDSM and D/s can be very enjoyable with only a limited amount of power exchange and without dramatic labels, all it requires is to be an adult and responsible and not let your fantasy run away with you.
Like slavery, power exchange in BDSM is completely voluntary, so we are playing with a fantasy concept anyway, something no lawyer could push through, it's two or more adults agreeing to something because it's what they want and crave. To give up power and free will in certain circumstances with a trusted partner is absolutely cool, but I'm getting fed up with people using TPE as an excuse for bad choices or letting your libido overrule your common sense. Even if you have agreed to TPE, you haven't agreed to be a mindless robot, you're still responsible. BDSM is a game for adults, if you can't act like an adult, sorry, you really shouldn't be part of it! It goes back to "I'm your domme and not your mom!"
Monday, 26 November 2012
Stupid things people do...
So I read an entry on MF today, not sure if I should believe it, it's just a bit "much" and to be honest it doesn't sound very credible...
I best do a copy and paste, since I am not sure the guy who posted the review is "legit", I change the name of the domme in question... Why I am not so sure it's a real review, I'll tell you later....
This is the very first time that I've had to give a Mistress a bad review. Now over the years, since I've been exploring my inner submission, and having sessions with Pro Domme's, for the most part, I've had pleasant experiences, some more so that others which just depended on the Mistress and her particular style when it comes to a session, and I've sessioned with several different Mistresses, but I'd have to say, that may last session with an Altanta Georgia area Mistress, XXX was absolutely awful, and here's the reasons why.
What made me initially chose her, was her photos, which must have been taken when she was about 20-30 lighter; thefefore, the photos of how she actually presently looks where somewhat deceiving. Not to sound mean, but when she opened her mouth, I see these huge buttery teeth, she has awful oral hygiene which is something that you can not truly enjoy if you're one of those submissives that enjoy being spit on by your Mistress.
So although I'm mislead from the photos, and find her teeth disgusting, since I drove almost 2 hrs to make it to my session, and being in need of a submission fix, I didn't turn around and leave, I stayed, paid my tribute fee, we began the session, and was truly wanting to make the best of it, and have a good session. Now I go into the mindset of a submissive, which means that I want to do everything I'm told and make my Mistress happy. Well she asked me if I would mind having our session video taped, at first I was very reluctant, because this is my private life here we're talking about. I told her that I would be worried about my face and tattoo's being seen, and she assured me that she would edit those out.
Not long after our session, I had a change of heart, and respectfully requested that she not use the videos at all, and after my request, a few days later, I look and this fat ass buck toothed buttery teeth bitch has posted these videos on clips 4 sale, unedited, totally disragarding or respecting my wishes! Not being concerned at all how this could effect my life! Mistress or not, I don't like to be lied to or dealt with underhandedly by anyone! So be forewarned submissives, XXXX is not the Mistress to go see! There are plenty other Mistresses that are a lot more straight up in their dealings than her, trust me! I'm not usually a mean hearted person, or say mean things just to offend or hurt someone, but she, Mistress Yuck Mouth aka XXXX has really pissed me off royally, and my complaint is valid! She is a liar, and totally unprofessional! Now is what I'm saying defamation of her character, uhmmm no I don't think so, because it's the truth, no matter how harshly stated! Save your $ and your time, do not go see her, trust me friends!
I told him that if he didn't sign a release form, he should inform Clips4Sale and tell them and they'd yank the video - they have to and they won't run the risk of a law suit. People who dealt with them said they are superb and run a "clean" business.
Why I think he isn't legit? Simple, because all his other reviews were about a different Mistress in the area, he basically was a walking advertisement for her, said Mistress seems to be a direct competition of the Mistress where he claimed was so bad.
Additionally, he claims that she is much bigger than her pics, seeing her videos, she actually seems slimmer than her her pics, and in her videos her teeth are just fine, perfect, white, nothing to see of buck teeth.
Then a guy saying he didn't like the way she looked, that she had horrible teeth but still staying and paying - somehow doesn't sound right, then a client - somebody who PAYS - agreeing to have the session taped without being forewarned about it? Sorry, nope, again, doesn't sound right...
And then you look at her videos, she seems to have 2 regular video slaves in her C4S video store, both of them go months and months back - and he claims that she sells the video on his C4S store? Again, not right. Also if you would worry about being recognized, would you put it out where to find the videos with potential blackmail material? Something is odd about it...
Anybody with half a brain would demand that the videos are taken down or legal action would happen, hell, just a little anonymous call telling the authorities that she doesn't have all the proper release papers and she'd be in legal trouble until the next century...
Something just doesn't smell right here...
But anyway, guys, you got a brain use it to THINK...
Guys, don't do videos without a mask, just don't do it! THINK!
Btw seems the guy was really full of shit and got busted, as for her looks, she put up a video and the domme in question is quite gorgeous: free video
I best do a copy and paste, since I am not sure the guy who posted the review is "legit", I change the name of the domme in question... Why I am not so sure it's a real review, I'll tell you later....
This is the very first time that I've had to give a Mistress a bad review. Now over the years, since I've been exploring my inner submission, and having sessions with Pro Domme's, for the most part, I've had pleasant experiences, some more so that others which just depended on the Mistress and her particular style when it comes to a session, and I've sessioned with several different Mistresses, but I'd have to say, that may last session with an Altanta Georgia area Mistress, XXX was absolutely awful, and here's the reasons why.
What made me initially chose her, was her photos, which must have been taken when she was about 20-30 lighter; thefefore, the photos of how she actually presently looks where somewhat deceiving. Not to sound mean, but when she opened her mouth, I see these huge buttery teeth, she has awful oral hygiene which is something that you can not truly enjoy if you're one of those submissives that enjoy being spit on by your Mistress.
So although I'm mislead from the photos, and find her teeth disgusting, since I drove almost 2 hrs to make it to my session, and being in need of a submission fix, I didn't turn around and leave, I stayed, paid my tribute fee, we began the session, and was truly wanting to make the best of it, and have a good session. Now I go into the mindset of a submissive, which means that I want to do everything I'm told and make my Mistress happy. Well she asked me if I would mind having our session video taped, at first I was very reluctant, because this is my private life here we're talking about. I told her that I would be worried about my face and tattoo's being seen, and she assured me that she would edit those out.
Not long after our session, I had a change of heart, and respectfully requested that she not use the videos at all, and after my request, a few days later, I look and this fat ass buck toothed buttery teeth bitch has posted these videos on clips 4 sale, unedited, totally disragarding or respecting my wishes! Not being concerned at all how this could effect my life! Mistress or not, I don't like to be lied to or dealt with underhandedly by anyone! So be forewarned submissives, XXXX is not the Mistress to go see! There are plenty other Mistresses that are a lot more straight up in their dealings than her, trust me! I'm not usually a mean hearted person, or say mean things just to offend or hurt someone, but she, Mistress Yuck Mouth aka XXXX has really pissed me off royally, and my complaint is valid! She is a liar, and totally unprofessional! Now is what I'm saying defamation of her character, uhmmm no I don't think so, because it's the truth, no matter how harshly stated! Save your $ and your time, do not go see her, trust me friends!
I told him that if he didn't sign a release form, he should inform Clips4Sale and tell them and they'd yank the video - they have to and they won't run the risk of a law suit. People who dealt with them said they are superb and run a "clean" business.
Why I think he isn't legit? Simple, because all his other reviews were about a different Mistress in the area, he basically was a walking advertisement for her, said Mistress seems to be a direct competition of the Mistress where he claimed was so bad.
Additionally, he claims that she is much bigger than her pics, seeing her videos, she actually seems slimmer than her her pics, and in her videos her teeth are just fine, perfect, white, nothing to see of buck teeth.
Then a guy saying he didn't like the way she looked, that she had horrible teeth but still staying and paying - somehow doesn't sound right, then a client - somebody who PAYS - agreeing to have the session taped without being forewarned about it? Sorry, nope, again, doesn't sound right...
And then you look at her videos, she seems to have 2 regular video slaves in her C4S video store, both of them go months and months back - and he claims that she sells the video on his C4S store? Again, not right. Also if you would worry about being recognized, would you put it out where to find the videos with potential blackmail material? Something is odd about it...
Anybody with half a brain would demand that the videos are taken down or legal action would happen, hell, just a little anonymous call telling the authorities that she doesn't have all the proper release papers and she'd be in legal trouble until the next century...
Something just doesn't smell right here...
But anyway, guys, you got a brain use it to THINK...
Guys, don't do videos without a mask, just don't do it! THINK!
Btw seems the guy was really full of shit and got busted, as for her looks, she put up a video and the domme in question is quite gorgeous: free video
Sunday, 25 November 2012
Comptletely unrelated
I seem to have the laziest dogs on the planet, OK, we had long walks today and all that, but it's raining now and I tried to encourage them to have another walk tonight...
Guess what, they just went to the nearest lamp post and weed, then decided they drag me back home...
Each of them is about my size, but they are afraid of a bit of rain...
Guess what, they just went to the nearest lamp post and weed, then decided they drag me back home...
Each of them is about my size, but they are afraid of a bit of rain...
Tuesday, 20 November 2012
Why are there....
So I opened up my FL again and guess what, yeah, there is a long rambling letter with a laundry list of what I can do to a guy for "my pleasure" and then he complains about pro dommes and life-style dommes, the former ones are all greedy whores (according to him) and the latter are mostly fat, old and unattractive (again according to him) and since he considers me not too fat, too old (duh, thought I set my profile to 86 to not attract them) or too unattractive (wonder how he can tell since all he sees is a leather corset) he decided to write me and offer himself. OH LUCKY ME...
I know it's not easy to find a life-style domme, possibly not even for casual play, but it's also not easy to find a girlfriend or a kinky girlfriend, sitting at your computer and typing with one hand won't make it easier.
First impressions count, if you come across like a whiny little cry-baby, feeling sorry for yourself and telling me how hard it is, I have an impression of you, that impression isn't flattering.
If you think you flatter me by talking nasty about other women - think again, you come over as a classless, mean spirited little creep.
So you talk about serving me, but then you have this long list of what you want me to do to you, hey, if I go for a massage, I usually pay because the massage therapist is providing a service, so if you want your ass caned, it's nothing else, spare me the "for my pleasure".
Oh yeah, and don't bemoan the fact that there are so many big women in BDSM, guess what, a lot of big women around, if you don't like them look the other way. Nobody says you have to find them attractive but if you bitch about them being there, then let me bitch about needy little creeps...
Actually, it's a bunch of wasted keystrokes, said all before
http://exdomme.blogspot.co.uk/2012/07/public-service-announcement.html
I know it's not easy to find a life-style domme, possibly not even for casual play, but it's also not easy to find a girlfriend or a kinky girlfriend, sitting at your computer and typing with one hand won't make it easier.
First impressions count, if you come across like a whiny little cry-baby, feeling sorry for yourself and telling me how hard it is, I have an impression of you, that impression isn't flattering.
If you think you flatter me by talking nasty about other women - think again, you come over as a classless, mean spirited little creep.
So you talk about serving me, but then you have this long list of what you want me to do to you, hey, if I go for a massage, I usually pay because the massage therapist is providing a service, so if you want your ass caned, it's nothing else, spare me the "for my pleasure".
Oh yeah, and don't bemoan the fact that there are so many big women in BDSM, guess what, a lot of big women around, if you don't like them look the other way. Nobody says you have to find them attractive but if you bitch about them being there, then let me bitch about needy little creeps...
Actually, it's a bunch of wasted keystrokes, said all before
http://exdomme.blogspot.co.uk/2012/07/public-service-announcement.html
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