Learning…
I recently had this
conversation with KKB, or “Her Majesty’s Plaything” as he’s known on Blogger,
I’m not sure how it came about, I think we were talking about very young pro
dommes and that it seems to be unfair to expect somebody who’s barely 18 to
call all the shots and make wise choices… I mentioned that I usually get a bit
creeped out when middle aged guys have this thing for barely legal girls, I
always want to yell “Give them a chance to find their own sexuality first!” Oh
and then we talked about how much more fun “older guys” are.
There really is
something special about a guy who comes to a dungeon and knows what he likes,
especially if he’s also a bit of a masochist. It’s not just all the actions,
it’s also the fun of talking with somebody who has lived a bit and is
interesting to talk to.
Anyway, most of the
stuff I learned I didn’t learn from other dommes but actually from clients,
there really is no better teacher than an experienced bottom. I first thought
when I was telling some guys that I don’t feel ready to do certain things, that
it would turn them off, but some of them were actually really cool with it and
we sort of bartered. They showed me how to do some things and of course I
didn’t charge them for teaching me. Usually worked out that they booked an hour
and we did 90 minutes and I covered the rest of the dungeon rent myself. Seemed
only fair.
I think some of them
were grooming me to be their domme, and yeah, worked for both sides, I learned
a lot and they enjoyed teaching me the basics and then letting me expand on it.
I found those relationships just really really great. Another thing I look back
at fondly… The excitement of learning new things and all that. I hope that
doesn’t sound like I know it all, because that I definitely do not, but I
sometimes wish I could revisit learning something completely new with the same
zest and anticipation, but to be honest, while BDSM is and always was a part of
my life, it’s just not that important anymore. I’m just not the kid in the
sweetshop anymore who wants to try almost everything… On the other hand, while
it’s a lot less, it’s also much more exciting, sort of a treat from time to
time. I must have grown up while I wasn’t looking ;)
But I found a really cool video I enjoyed, nothing too raunchy, just BDSM through the history...
